If you ask anyone who is already married, you’re bound to get a few eye-rolls and shudders when you mention wedding planning. Those who have been through it can all remember one or two not-so-romantic moments in the immense process, and know that it’s not as simple as just selecting a few pretty colors and floral bouquets. The inevitable stress that accompanies planning your perfect day is something many brides and grooms think is just unavoidable…but we disagree. Yes, there are some things that will bring up stressful moments, but with just a few simple actions, you can sidestep the stress-fest and make wedding planning a joyous experience.
- Make a budget and stick to it: Many couples know just how much money they will have available to them for their wedding, whether from family, savings, or other sources. Typically, they know that number several months before their wedding, even if it’s just a ballpark figure. Sticking to the amount of money you know you’ll have (or just under the amount) will prevent you from starting off your life together with a mountain of debt. We recommend using a spreadsheet program like these to lay out your projected costs. Make sure you and your fiancé are on board, and don’t forget surprise expenses like garment alterations, gratuities for large meals, taxes or fees for rental cars or extras, and room service for out of town guests.
- Hire a professional planner: Many brides think they can handle their big day without a professional planner, by having a family member or close friend take over the duties of a planner. What often happens is that mom or sister (or whomever was asked) misses the majority of the day trying to deal with tiny mishaps or wedding party members, whereas a planner can be more objective, less emotional, and more experienced with directing everyone on time. When I have asked brides, they have all said it was worth the extra $ to have someone keeping things moving smoothly.
- Begin booking your big items early on. There are what’s called the “heavy hitters” in the wedding planning industry: your venue, your photographer, your florist, and your caterer. These are the biggest items that can make and break your big day, and the ones that fill up the fastest, particularly in the summer. Some brides book as early as two years out, although the average is about 12-18 months before the big day. If you’re looking for an elegant, editorial style photographer with a distinct storytelling element, contact me so we can schedule your perfect day and secure the date you want most!
- Give yourself a break: There will be times when you will be overwhelmed by color schemes and invitations, and this is the time to give yourself (and your fiancé a break from the wedding planning). Go on a date and don’t talk about any aspects of the wedding, or take yourself to get a massage or a pedicure. Not thinking about all the tiny details for a little while can help you prevent burning yourself or anyone else out, and making your mental and emotional health a priority will ensure a truly happy day! Alternately, make one day a week “wedding planning free”, or take an entire week off if you’re feeling strained.
- Employ gratitude: The best way to conquer drowning in the emotions and stress is to say thank you to those around you who are giving their resources (time, money, etc.). Write thank you notes for gifts, give sincere toasts to loved ones at your rehearsal, and focus on the special people who are surrounding you on your wonderful day. Even if things go slightly awry, knowing that you treasured and were grateful for the helping hands on your dream day, will keep the focus on the best memories, not the worst moments.
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Five Tips to Stress Free Wedding Planning!
September 24, 2018