As a veteran wedding photographer, and of course, having been a bride myself, I wanted to share some thoughts today that might encourage the brides I will meet this year and next!
Can you say “wild emotions”? I know what you’re feeling right now might feel like the world’s rockiest roller coaster. The joy, elation, and delight are tempered with a whole lot of stress, exhaustion, and decision making. You might feel the happiest you’ve ever been (and I’m sure you are!) but planning a wedding can sure feel overwhelming. I want you to remember a few things along the way:
- Your wedding is temporary, but your marriage is what lasts: Inevitably, things go wrong on wedding days. I have heard of lots of little snafus happening, such as caterers forgetting top tiers of cakes, or bouquets being missed…and you know what? It’s okay! It happens, and remembering that while it’s your dream day and certainly important, your marriage will last long after your wedding day.
- Remember that people matter more than the day: We have all heard of bride-zillas, and I cannot express enough how your attitude truly matters. When disagreements or inconveniences happen, how you handle it really reflects your character and ideals. Treat everyone with kindness, including your bridesmaids, your florist, and yes, even your photographer 😉 Of course it’s a stressful time, but keep your real, sweet, and kind personality intact through it all, and your friends will have nothing but cherished memories.
- Stick to your budget: No one wants to say “I do” only to be left with a mountain of debt. Brides and their partners can spend upwards of 30k these days on their wedding, when you include food and wine, but if you’re on a tight budget, remember that it can be done! Enlist help with decorations, food, and things like alterations. Chances are, you may have more talented friends and family than you realize, who might just be florists or seamstresses or interior designers.
- Have a wedding coordinator: If you can’t afford a full scale wedding coordinator, be sure to have a day-of wedding organizer. They can really keep the day moving along smoothly, on time, and prevent your mom or best friend from having to deal with the headaches that may pop up. Having an objective person there to handle any issues means your most loved friends and family can simply focus on your day and celebrating with you.
- Have fun! Although it’s hard to focus on a million things at once, don’t forget to laugh and enjoy your special day. All of your loved ones are together, and celebrating you and your love story. It’s a time to dance and party, as well as to commemorate your vows and promises. Don’t get too caught up in it being “perfect” that your smiles feel strained and your laughter isn’t genuine. Once you reach your wedding day, there’s not many details you can take care of last minute anyways!
Congratulations to all of this summer’s amazing brides! I can’t wait to meet you!
A letter to the Bride… | West Michigan Wedding Photographer
May 18, 2018